This is an excellent collection of Scripture.
Observe the comments. The Truth of the Lord is an anathema to the modern Churchian woman. And such a whore will be banished.
I saw this post on facebook, and clicked on it expecting the usual trope. It actually turned out to be pretty good given what we know about about the nature of women:
http://nycpastor.com/2014/12/29/10-women-christian-men-should-not-marry/
Corollary: http://nycpastor.com/2014/10/23/ten-men-christian-women-should-not-marry/
The comments are particularly enlightening if you want to see a variety of typical emotional responses.
His main mistake is attempting to engage the “Christian” feminists and the like in logical debate regarding the Scriptures. I’ve made this mistake before, even on this blog. They don’t care about what the Scriptures say. Rather instead they say the Scriptures support their opinions without referencing any, and the typical ‘don’t judge’ passage. What they “feel” is right is their truth and not what the Bible says.
However, he does seem to understand that this reaction is normal because of Scriptural quotes from all throughout the NT in defending his points. Likewise, he doesn’t given in to any…
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ar10308 
This is so wrong and gross. I pray this man never gets married and passes his DNA on. That would be almost as horrible as this article.
What do you have against legitimate Biblical advice? Is it because it makes you feel bad?
^What Biblical advice says men can’t marry women older than themselves? You are not a real man of God. You don’t respect women and so, you won’t have a “pretty Christian wife” because you are a chauvinist and a deranged entitled fool.
It’s a very good guideline based on the timing of fertility and historical precidence.
I very won’t have an American wife. Oh whatever will I do. There are plenty of women abroad who will embrace God’s role for their life. And they are thinner, have better attitudes and more respect for men.
That is so shallow of you. But hey, you’re welcome to go to the Middle East and court your “ideal woman.”
By the way, what are YOU going to contribute to your “future marriage?”
Haha, Middle East. I was thinking more along the lines of Eastern Europe. Women there want to have families and husbands that will take care of them.
What will I bring? Leadership, resources and spiritual guidance. I’d be happy to fulfill my role as a husband and father, so long as I find a woman who is willing to fulfill her roles as a wife and mother. American women have broadly rejected those roles, and have replaced it with all manner of other distractions.
“Distractions?” huh? So some women want a fulfilling career, choose whatever woman you want but it looks real shallow on your part, and not to mention ignorant, when you speak of other women and their career goals as lesser or “distractions.”
Sweetie, there’s no such thing as a fulfilling career. There’s work and then you retire. And when you retire, everyone who hasn’t retired forgets you in a month.
And if a career fulfills you, then you need to examine what is wrong with you, because your soul is empty.
Maybe you feel that way about your own career goals. . .
No, the point is that a job or career is not meant to fulfill anyone. God and family are meant to be your fulfillment. A job, career or vocation is a means to that end.
(((in response to wondering:
What about Hosea? The whole book was about a man who married a prostitute because God told him to. She even left him to go back into prostitution and Hosea was told by God to go and buy her back. Being a Christian is not about following a list of rules, but about submitting to […]
Clearly you missed the point of Hosea. It wasn’t marriage advice. The point of Hosea is to show Israel what they have done to God, over and over again.
Also, why are you so supportive of a whore? Are you saying that young men looking for a Godly wife should marry a whore and that his days will go well for him? Are you saying that a woman who displays wonton wanderlust would make a good mother for a man’s children? Why would man choose a woman whose womb has had so many penises inside of her and possibly diseases to grow his children?))))
…ar10308…I’m not able to post a response to you from my original comment and your response on NYCpastor’s blog, so that is why I’m doing it here. I’m sorry that you clearly missed the point of my comment about Hosea, and also the point of the book itself. (Or maybe you just didn’t take the time to read my whole comment?) Yes, you are correct, it was not written as marriage advice!! Yikes! Yes, it was written to show what Israel was doing to the Lord, BUT ALSO to show the Lord’s redeeming love for His people. Even though Israel was unfaithful, the Lord pursued them and bought them back, again and again. He pursues us like that, in our unfaithfulness. Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His own love for us, in that while we were sinners, Christ died for us.” Everything about our relationship with God as a believer is because of who He is and what He has done, not what we have done or can do. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son , that whoever believes in Him Should not perish but have everlasting life.” 1 John 4:7-11 “Beloved let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.” We are required to accept this gift of salvation (Jesus’ death on the cross, burial, and resurrection from the dead) through faith. Romans 3:20-26 “Therefore by the deeds of the law no flesh will be justified in His sight, for by the law is the knowledge of sin. But now the righteousness of God apart from the law is revealed, being witnessed by the Law and the Prophets, even the righteousness of God which is through faith in Jesus Christ to all and on all who believe. For there is no difference; for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God set forth to be a propitiation by His blood, through faith, to demonstrate His righteousness, because in His forbearance God had passed over the sins previously committed, to demonstrate at the present time His righteousness, that He might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus.” Romans 4:5 “But to him who does not work but believes on Him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is accounted for righteousness,” This makes us a new creature! We are no longer slaves to sin, and should not continue in it anymore! Please read Romans 6, 7 and 8! Romans 8:3-5 “For what the law could not do in that it was weak through the flesh, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, on account of sin: He condemned sin in the flesh, that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.” I was not defending the whore (Israel), I’m defending obedience to God, even when it might look different than what some church leaders in some churches might say in a list of rules to follow. God and His word are the final authority! There are several points on the aforementioned blog that aren’t explicitly given as commands in scripture. I’m not telling you to go out and marry a prostitute. I’m saying that people who claim to be Christians should not follow a list of man made rules for their life. It’s too easy in this day and age to read something like this article and think “OH, OK, I’m good!” but in God’s eyes, not be “good”. Young men searching for a wife should be encouraged to pursue a relationship with Christ first and foremost! If a young man is following Christ, being led by the Holy Spirit, he is not going to choose wrong. Wrong choices are made when we follow the desires of the sinful nature, of our self. I’m sure Hosea didn’t want to marry a prostitute, but he submitted to the will of God, and he was obedient. If he had followed these guidelines, he would have been out of God’s will for his life and going exactly against the plan God had for him. Please, look into His Word. All of it, not just the parts that feel right or fit your perspective. Pray that the Lord will show his true self to you, and make your desires into His desires. Follow HIM, not a list of man made rules that pluck convenient scripture verses. (I am saying this not just to you, this is something I do and I believe everyone who claims to be a Christian should be doing) 1 Peter 2:1-3 “Therefore laying aside all malice, all guile, hypocrisy, envy and all evil speaking, as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word, that you may grow thereby, if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is gracious.” Hebrews 4:10-13 “For he who has entered His rest has himself also ceased from his works as God did from His. Let us therefore be diligent to enter that rest, lest anyone fall after the same example of disobedience. For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. And there is no creature hidden from his sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give an account.”
And as for the second part of your comment, it’s kind-of just ridiculous. I know you don’t know me, but I can’t think of a single person who would tell a young man looking for a Godly wife to do those things, or that those qualities would make a suitable wife or mother. I figured you were exaggerating, but I just wanted to be clear.
Nope, I didn’t miss the point of Hosea.
You’ve used your Emotional Hamster to do a ton rationalization on why men shouldn’t have standards when it comes to choosing a woman to marry. I see very plainly how angry and offended women get when they are told by men that they should meet high moral standards. Notice how men never object to women told that they should find men with high moral character? It’s because they understand the intrinsic importance of it. Women, on the other hand, invest a tremendous amount of energy emotionally rationalizing why the same standards shouldn’t apply to them.
My examples are massively common in today’s world. Which is why you see the response you see from women who hate the idea that there may be consequences if men realize the raw deal they are getting by marrying such low-value women. Women command men to marry them and threaten that their travels, worthless degrees and pointless careers make them morally better people and that their sexual promiscuity better qualifies her to be a wife.
No. I didn’t miss the point. God has grace, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have standards to hold. God or you wouldn’t build a house on sand and neither would you build a family in the same place by marrying a woman of weak character or are not equally yoked with.
I am not rationalizing that men should not have standards for the women they choose! And I’m not angry or offended. I disagree with putting a list on the Internet for men to follow. I think if men are encouraged in their relationship with the Lord, they won’t need to follow a list. When they put aside their worldly desires and submit to Christ, finding the wife Christ has for them should come naturally. Stay humble, say “no” to self, follow Christ. That isn’t being emotional, that’s being biblical.
I agree that it is ridiculous to set standards for men and expect them to not have any. But if each of us, men and women of Christ, are following Him, there should be no problem. My whole point is Follow Christ, not men! (Or women, whatever the case may be)
Aside from all that, I hope that you find the one God has for you. It is difficult in these times, everything is going upside down. Just keep your eyes turned to HIM and you won’t go wrong.
Doesn’t a relationship with the Lord include following His commands and learning His wisdom? Wisdom is given to us through scripture and God also uses lists within that.
@ar10308,
Kudos to you for exposing the folly of many of the foolish commenters at NYC Pastors blog. You did a great job!
@ar10308
‘Sweetie’ what a sexist-chauvinist word you called @carascrows. Learn how to acknowledge a woman whether you agree or disagree with her views.
“Don’t be sexist. Broads hate that.”
Hating is murder in God’s eye. I don’t hate you or any man. But you… have hate towards women and you can’t see it.
So when you are angry with your husband or man for looking at pornography because you make yourself sexually available to him, just remember that anger is equivalent to murder.
Anger is murder and you’re angry at women.
@ar10308
You’re one of those bible believers looking for the perfect biblical Stepford wife. A wife who is compliant, submissive, slim, bland in appearance and behavior, a spineless wife who happily does her husband’s bidding and serves his every whim dutifully.
Smh…
I like how you demonize what the Bible has to say as unreasonable and as if keeping the most basic commands as unrealistic. Clearly it is God’s fault for suggesting that you shouldn’t marry an unbeliever or someone who has been previously married.
You’re creepy. LOL
Oh wow. The greatest insult you can conjure is that you don’t find me sexually attractive.
@ar10308
You sound like a total dork! LOL!
All you have is playground taunts? Is this your attempt at flirting?
ar10308, I wouldn’t get my hopes up too high for Eastern European women. And if you are serious about it you will need to hurry. We’re catching up to the west.