In my church small group on Monday, we were discussing Genesis 4. My small group consists of 3 married couples, each in their late 20s/early 30s with 2 children and myself.
In Genesis 4, Cain’s wife isn’t given a name. She was referred to as “Cain’s wife”. We were discussing this passage in my small group and the Churchian wives became offended when one of the husbands refered to his wife as “Wife of John” (his name is changed to protect the Alpha move). When I asked why she didn’t consider the title to be a position of honor, she stammered out that it “Just sounds so Old Testament…” as if that validated why she didn’t like it. I let the matter drop since she certainly couldn’t explain herself and didn’t even use the phrase “wife of insert-man-here” for the rest of the evening (I didn’t want to overuse the neg), but I will hold on to it for future occasional use.
As Sis has pointed out in her recent blog, the husband’s responsibility is to initiate sex with his wife. When the wife refuses his advances, she not only violates New Testament orders but falls directly into the sin and curse of Eve by denying that it is her husband’s authority and responsibility to do such things. She is downright preventing him from doing what God has commanded. It truly is an attempt to turn a husband’s honor, responsibility and privilege into a weapon to use to manipulate and coerce him.
“And you shall desire to control your husband and he shall rule over you.”