Welp, another of my friends has gotten engaged. He’s a good guy and got engaged to a good girl. Their MMVs are basically equal, both are a bit overweight and enjoy bowling, shooting pool and other simple pleasures like that.
Usually, this friend, another friend and myself get together once a month to get dinner at a certain burrito chain, and then spend the next 2-3hours telling jokes, stories and arguing religion and politics in the parking lot. It’s a great tradition we’ve kept going for probably 2 years now.
We were planning to meet this Tuesday until I got an from the newly engaged friend that his future mother-in-law (MIL from here on out) has booked an appointment for them to look at a venue for their wedding or reception or w/e. Now, I don’t know if he consented to having his personal time usurped like this, but I have a feeling he didn’t.
Having taken the Red Pill, I can clearly see this situation for what it is. He definitely hasn’t.
So what will probably happen is that more and more will be required of him by her parents and her, because he isn’t able to stand up to them in the small things. Avoiding a future of controlling Parents IL can be easily avoided by establishing proper boundaries right here and now. “I can’t make that night. I already have plans. What other nights can we do it?” would go a long way towards establishing a proper frame of relationship because you aren’t acting as their call-boy, but a party of equal value who needs to be taken into consideration.
Ironically, they want his opinion on the venue, but don’t respect him enough to have no qualms about imposing on his personal time.