Dr. Scott Broadwell’s Letter To NY(B)Times Advice Column: Cuckold for a Cause

July 13, 2012:

My wife is having an affair with a government executive. His role is to manage a project whose progress is seen worldwide as a demonstration of American leadership. (This might seem hyperbolic, but it is not an exaggeration.) I have met with him on several occasions, and he has been gracious. (I doubt if he is aware of my knowledge.) I have watched the affair intensify over the last year, and I have also benefited from his generosity. He is engaged in work that I am passionate about and is absolutely the right person for the job. I strongly feel that exposing the affair will create a major distraction that would adversely impact the success of an important effort. My issue: Should I acknowledge this affair and finally force closure? Should I suffer in silence for the next year or two for a project I feel must succeed? Should I be “true to my heart” and walk away from the entire miserable situation and put the episode behind me?


Don’t expose the affair in any high-profile way. It would be different if this man’s project was promoting some (contextually hypocritical) family-values platform, but that doesn’t appear to be the case. The only motive for exposing the relationship would be to humiliate him and your wife, and that’s never a good reason for doing anything. This is between you and your spouse. You should tell her you want to separate, just as you would if she were sleeping with the mailman. The idea of “suffering in silence” for the good of the project is illogical. How would the quiet divorce of this man’s mistress hurt an international leadership initiative? He’d probably be relieved.

The fact that you’re willing to accept your wife’s infidelity for some greater political good is beyond honorable. In fact, it’s so over-the-top honorable that I’m not sure I believe your motives are real. Part of me wonders why you’re even posing this question, particularly in a column that is printed in The New York Times.

Your dilemma is intriguing, but I don’t see how it’s ambiguous. Your wife is having an affair with a person you happen to respect. Why would that last detail change the way you respond to her cheating? Do you admire this man so much that you haven’t asked your wife why she keeps having sex with him? I halfway suspect you’re writing this letter because you want specific people to read this column and deduce who is involved and what’s really going on behind closed doors (without actually addressing the conflict in person). That’s not ethical, either.

This could be someone else, but given recent events, the parallels are strikingly similar.

Based on his letter, he is truly conflicted over whether or not he should require his wife to be faithful to him (or divorce her), or to allow her to continue to be the mistress of a powerful man and hope things just go back to normal afterwards (hypergamy says they won’t). It is also tragic that he doesn’t have a problem with being cuckolded for a cause he believes in, to the point where he views it as an actual sacrifice and contribution to achieving the objective.

How a man feels that he has to put up with something like this is beyond me. I don’t have any further insights I can provide. The most we can hope for is that this gives Scott a strong dose of the Red Pill. Though  his wife has been giving him daily doses for years and he just isn’t getting it. He thinks he deserves it. He clings to lightly to his own frame that it is nonexistent. And Paula confirms it every chance she gets.

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6 Responses to Dr. Scott Broadwell’s Letter To NY(B)Times Advice Column: Cuckold for a Cause

  1. sunshinemary says:

    That’s crazy! Could it possibly be Mr. Broadwell? It’s eerily similar. Wow, this is rare insight into the inner workings of the mind of a mangina. Interesting.

  2. Will S. says:

    That is just nuts!

  3. Scott husband says:

    Stupid guy!

  4. Scott husband says:

    He must be able to inquire his wife feeling and act as a husband not a wimp

  5. Scott husband says:

    We should blame the guy for not taking care of his wife emotionally and sexually.

  6. Scott husband says:

    All the guys and girls in this case should be time out . Imagine they are your general, your war experts and your doctors and their wives. Oh and their kids old and young what roll models they should go up in? Gosh no wonder the Taliban laugh but they too are the laughing stock to suppress women and keep them covered , face and body or stone the unfaithful spouses to death.

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